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Hi Renata, i frel like that too. I have had to search far and wide to find other homeschooling Christian parents i can relate to. It’s just not a common choice in Australia or new Zealand. For. A long time i felt really alone. All my previous friends were either defensive or doubtful. Its only been in the last year that i have started to find people.. one here in my home town, and some others in other towns. They are not always available though so i still feel very alone at times. I totally get it. If you ever feel like you need to connect with someone else in the southern hemisphere who is a Christian homeschooling mum, i would love to chat on messenger. My Facebook name is cath vos. The days can be so long and it can be so very lonely. Hope you have a great Monday.
Maybe looping would work for you? Basically you put the main tasks in order that you would like and each day you do the next one on the list. If you have to work and can’t do a day it makes no difference, you just pick up where you left of the following day. Here is an article about how to do it. http://ourenchantedplace.blogspot.co.nz/2013/11/loop-plan-for-housework.html?m=1
We are not all organised and naturally systematic. I’m not… I have to work very hard to remember stuff and in certain stressful seasons I was incredibly unreliable! One thing iI have learned is that I need to focus on what I bring to the table. My hubby didn’t marry a super organised high achiever who would be naturally good at housekeeping.. He married me, a random spontaneous people focused individual. After more than ten years of despair and a major failure complex when it comes to homemaking I am finally getting it. I don’t have to be perfect. And neither do you. Our hubbies are not perfect individuals and neither are we. But we are created in the image of God and he has blessed you with the exact combinations of personality and gifting that your family needs… Anything else…. Well it’s God who is our gap filler. My prayer for you is that you would see your value. Your heart is in the right place… You wouldn’t be here if you weren’t trying to serve your family. He may not be able to trust you with the porch light and that is ok…its just a porch light and he is trusting you with so much more that doesn’t get acknowledged. My hubby can’t trust me to keep the kitchen rubbish bin area.tidy. I now empty that bin as it was just too stressful for him. We laugh about it now but we have figured out how to make it less of an issue. And I am trying. It’s just one thing I find hard to remember. When we had three babies three and under we were lucky to survive. I struggled with so much. But in the end I kept giving my all.
You are not a machine, you are a beautiful, caring, God-fearing mother who is giving so much for her family. God looks on you with love, Grace and absolutely no condemnation. It is Satan who is an accuser. Don’t Listen to him. With love. Cath
Sandra, that’s right. It’s kind of like a time budget. The time is there to guide you. But each day you might spend that allotment differently.
What video chat? How is that done? And when?
Do we need to plan any margin into our day? My children are 9,7,6 and when they need help or support with conflict resolution, it makes everything else take much longer. Has anyone tried making their focus list up to 22 hours to allow for unexpected interruptions? Or would it be better to make my time allocations on the generous side to allow for interruptions? I’m curious to find out how those in the beta group went in this regard. I worry that if I set up my day to more hours than I have then I will just end up feeling like a failure.
I have found that i need to do THM in a vege heavy way rather than with lots of nut flour stuff.. I make smoothies with handfuls of spinach every day. Dinner is usually just same as rest of family but with veges instead of carbs. Funny how we have to tweak things.
I completely relate to the last thing you said. I have struggled so much as an adult with homemaking and feel like i am learning the basics now. Still, no condemnation in Christ and his timing is perfect. So right now you are where you need to be and God can take you step by step in the right direction. I know I am trying to celebrate the small steps we are making rather than condemn myself because I am not where i thought I should be. So great that we have a nonjudgemental community here. 🙂
Hi Emmy, have you tried Trim Healthy Mama eating plan? Its a lifestyle of eating that is healthy and energising and helps you lose weight without being hungry. I am a homeschooling mum too, also an ex teacher and I just wanted to encourage you to relax. You sound overwhelmed and my heart goes out to you. If your oldest has just turned 6, just relax. Reading books and talking together with perhaps a bit of maths games and letter formation is all you need right now. Your 3 and 4 year old do not need to be learning right now. When they are ready, they will learn quickly. If you focus on getting a basic routine going with a few requirements from the children, and build on that, then homeschooling will fit into your life. One of the things we have in our family is… A must be done before B. eg, there is no breakfast if they are not dressed with clothes away. No morning tea if their morning toys are messy etc. And so on. What exactly are you struggling with in regards to child training? I had a 3 and 4 year old when I was teaching my 6 year old, and we did short bursts when the others were busy, resting, or watching a dvd. As they all got older, I was able to implement more schooling routines but we did lots of reading books while they were eating snacks/lunches etc as formal lessons were hard back then. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone, and there is hope. Little changes can make a big difference.
I have a similar challenge with regards to prioritising. It all seems important. Tasks swim in my head or glare at me from my to do lists. I have tried to do brain dumps but i end up overwhelmed as there isn’t time to slot everything in. Is the key to do little steps in all the main areas or just to focus on a few areas and do them well? Sigh.
I found it helpful to list my vision for my home as interpreted by my five senses:
What does my home look, sound, feel, smell and feel like… This was great in one of the What else sections and really helped me get to the details that make the vision come alive. 🙂