We are in a stage that my husbands common response to the day is “take it easy”. That’s harder to do than not! Or sometimes it is an easy way to laziness and guilt. If I have the kitchen clean and children are alive and basic needs are met he’s happy to help fold laundry! Or if I’ve done all the laundry and cooking is done and toys are picked up, he’s content to do the kitchen after dinner. I am truely BLESSED and certainly don’t see having 6 children in 7 years if he was any other way! But this will help to more specifically ask what is important to him right now and what would make his evenings better ? He works so hard he deserves to have a more relaxed homecoming.